By Sharine Sample

If the phrase “networking event” makes your shoulders tense and your mind go blank, you’re not alone. For introverts, small talk can feel exhausting, awkward, or downright unnecessary, especially when you’re genuinely there to learn or explore job opportunities.  The good news? You don’t need to become a loud, endlessly chatty version of yourself to make networking work.

Here are some practical, introvert-friendly ways to make small talk with employers – without feeling like you’re forcing it.

Give yourself a warm-up window.  Walking into a room full of strangers and expecting yourself to instantly connect is a tall order, especially if you’re introverted.  It can make a big difference to arrive a little early, when the space is quieter and conversations are just starting.  You’ll have more opportunities for one-on-one interactions instead of jumping into established groups or employers. Think of the first 10-15 minutes as a gentle warm up.  Once you’ve had one comfortable conversation, the rest of the event may feel more manageable.

Redefine small talk as “starting points,” not performances.  Small talk isn’t about being impressive; it’s about opening a door.  Employers aren’t grading your wit.  A simple, sincere opener like, “What brought you to this event?” or “What kind of roles do you usually hire for?” is more than enough. Think of small talk as the bridge to a real conversation, not the destination.

Arrive with two or three go-to questions.  Introverts often feel anxious because they’re improvising under pressure. So take that pressure off. Before the event, prepare a few questions that you can reuse naturally.

  • “What do you enjoy most about working at your company?”
  • “How did you get into that field?”
  • “What skills would you most value for a new employee starting out?”

Having these questions ready gives you confidence and something to fall back on when your mind goes blank.

Let curiosity do the heavy lifting.  You don’t need to talk a lot to make a good impression. Listening well is a superpower, especially since so many people neglect it.  Employers remember people who ask thoughtful follow-up questions and seem genuinely interested. Nod, reflect back what they say, and ask one more question based on their answer.  This creates connection without requiring you to dominate the conversation.

Use the environment as a conversation starter.  If approaching someone or a group of people feels intimidating, let the setting help you.  Comment on the event itself, a speaker or even the venue: “Have you been to one of the events before?” or “That last panel was interesting – what did you think?”  Shared context makes conversations feel easier and more natural.

Give yourself permission to keep it short.  You don’t need to talk to everyone or talk for a long time.  A five-minute conversation that feels authentic is far better than a forced 20-minute one.  It’s okay to politely exit with, “It was really nice talking with you. I don’t want to take up too much of your time.”  That’s professional, respectful, and appreciated.

Follow up when your energy is highest (later).  If expressing yourself verbally feels draining, remember that introverts often shine in writing.  A thoughtful follow-up email or LinkedIn message can reinforce the connection and say what you didn’t think of in the moment.

Remember, networking as an introvert isn’t about changing who you are.  It’s about using your strengths – thoughtfulness, curiosity, and sincerity – to build real connections, one manageable conversation at a time.

Sharine Sample is the Regional Workforce Development Manager at Goodwill Industries of Northwest North Carolina. Learn more about Goodwill’s employment services here. 

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